Happenstance3
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| Me | Seeking | |||||||||||
| Pro/Am Status | Amateur |
 Professional  Amateur |
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| Experience | 3 years | at least 0 years experience | ||||||||||
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any | ||||||||||
| Dance Styles | Social Ballroom Argentine Tango East Coast Swing/Rock-n-Roll Cajun/Zydeco West Coast Swing Country/Western Vintage English Country Scandinavian |
American Rhythm American Smooth International Latin Social Ballroom Vintage East Coast Swing/Rock-n-Roll Lindy Hop West Coast Swing Argentine Tango Cajun/Zydeco Country/Western Contra English Country Greek Scandinavian |
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| Goals |
Social Competition Performance Training/Practice |
Social Competition Performance Training/Practice |
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| Like to Dance | 2 hrs/day, 1 days/week | (unused at present) | ||||||||||
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| Me | Seeking | |||||||||||
| Gender | Male | Female | ||||||||||
| Age | 75-85 | 50 to 99 | ||||||||||
| Height (w/o shoes) | 5'10" (178 cm) | any | ||||||||||
| Weight | 154 lbs (70 kg) | (unused at present) | ||||||||||
| Hair Color | Light Brown | (unused at present) | ||||||||||
| Eye Color | Blue | (unused at present) | ||||||||||
| Body Type | Slim/Slender |
Slim/Slender Average Muscular/Athletic Stocky Large |
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| Ethnicity | Caucasian/White | any | ||||||||||
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| Me | Seeking | |||||||||||
| Relationship Status | Single | any | ||||||||||
| Occupation | Teacher/Professor | (unused at present) | ||||||||||
| Smoking | No |
No Occasionally Daily |
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| Drinking | Socially | any | ||||||||||
| Education | PhD Degree | (unused at present) | ||||||||||
| Income | $35,000 - $49,999 US | (unused at present) | ||||||||||
| Religion | Spiritual but not religious | (unused at present) | ||||||||||
| Open to Dating | Yes |
I don't care. I'm just looking for a dance partner. |
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| Language skill | English |
English |
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| Credentials | 0 Request Credentials | |||||||||||
| Covid Vaccination | Unanswered | |||||||||||
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More About Me
Coming from a small town "no dance" background in Iowa, when I became single again in the early 1990s, I told myself, OK, get rid of that neurosis (that awful self-consciousness and lack of body integration with music, although I am musical you bet, having had one of those Iowa "music man" backgrounds for men's quartets, band, even sung soprano before my voice changed in a girl's madrigal). I'm not a performance dancer; I'm a partnered mystical in-touch dancer when the partner likes my vibes and like it when my partner almost leads I am such close touch and she is, too. I've been up to speed out at a country-rock live venue with a partner having enough fun that we've been asked if we're teachers. I've done Schottish on a Norwegian Fiord cruise dance floor with snow-covered mountains sliding by so well, even down on my knee that we got a round of applause. But I've also been awkward and stiff and out of it (trying to get Argentine Tango going) or out of practice so that I've thought, jeez, maybe I don't have enough momentum to keep going with this. But then I remember how many times I've offered to waltz with a total newbie and left her smiling and feeling "love it; like the movies; I can do it!" I love movie buddies and other dating fun. And I can live where I want to, but tend to spend summers in Michigan and much of the year in Portland and South Bay environs near San Francisco to be near daughters.
The first partner to get me going was a bold brown-eyed blond maternity nurse who called after I started dance lessons and said she needed a partner, and away we went. But sometimes she would say "What was that?" and I would say, "Now Lynne, that ain't the way to talk to a man." She was the first dancer in those days who trusted me enough that when I came to a corner doing the Texas two-step, she wouldn't look over her shoulder like almost all traditionally socialized, cautious about men women would, even after I had danced her into a post a time or two.
If dating evolves, I prefer women who have been there, done that, and it didn't work out so well with going by the "rules" and playing Cinderella. I see it for our generation as OK, we're equally responsible for phoning, e-mailing, coming up with fun things to do, making the first move (if it comes to that), and calling a spade a spade. Some fancy Belgium feminist cultural theorist said something about, start ground zero, with your nature, and take that where it goes, both the guy an gal. End of space.
I'm Looking For
Somebody -- maybe tall, which I especially like dancing, but petite, too, probably slim or athletic (don't think I'm scouting for a trophy woman, but I'm resigned to having been socialized with active people who stay in shape. It doesn't really matter for dancing, of course but probably it does for the rare chance that we both feel something going "romantic" and long term.)
Otherwise, just somebody who likes coaching and problem-solving new moves and laughs and smiles instead of looking surprised and uptight at the glitches. You don't have to be academic, but you have to get over seeing me as a fussy English prof or know-it-all. I'm still mostly a farm boy whose been out and about but still has some Midwest style and manner and ways of thinking.
Oh, but though I've voted Republican in my youth, the Bush years were miserable for me as an American citizen . . .
So just jumping in there and enjoying each other trying this and that saying whatever as long as it is not sarcastic or mean and figuring the conversation is a joint project and everything we inspire each other to find out we think is out there to be responded to, clarified, forgotten, expanded, laughed with, whatever.
Almost nothing matters in the happenstance of two who get together except how their personalities enmesh and how direct and intimate they are about saying what they would like when they would like it, but kindly and not as a territorial or power or exploitative move.
Dancing is a lot like the good life with a good match.
Thank you for hanging in there this long . . . that's a good sign you might like doing things with me, especially dancing.
Denny
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